So as usual, I was minding my own business this warm sunny Saturday afternoon, (wink, wink), when I get a call from a good girlfriend of mine. Let’s just say her name is Skye, because I don’t want to get blocked on social media, LOL, but seriously. Well Skye has an interesting, yet hardly unique relationship situation.
She and her husband are back together and from the looks of things are going full throttle in this newly rekindled romance. Whoo Hoo!!! (Let’s do this, baybee) But there’s a dilemma. A problem, if U get my drift. Yes, the break relationship.
Ladies, ladies, ladies, let me tell you something. If the child is under five, the ex is pregnant, or he’s married and newly separated, please head for the freakin hills. News flash: HE AINT THROUGH. And what this means for U is heartache and lots and lots of trouble.
U know I get into these conversations all the time about how doggish men are, but in reality, we women create the dog in them to a certain degree. Instead of making them accountable, by not being desperate, and doing our due diligence. Which consist of things like: asking questions, spending plenty of quality time, (hours upon hours) before sex, and holding him accountable for his actions just to name a few, goes far in wading through the bull shit.
Now before I go deeper, I gotta say, that I’m talking to the lady in the mirror, because I’ve lived a full life, (feel me). I just believe that in life all of us, men & women, have to get to the point where, we gotta choose our self. Not the feeling, not the presence of another, but our self. So, if we as women choose our self then we will think differently about who we allow to enter our atmosphere.
We will make certain that we got our karmic hat on when a potential suitor approaches us and go deeper than, “whelp, she f’d up, he mine now”. We’d stop and think, “his ex is six months pregnant. I better fall back and see where this goes.” Or, “what kind of guy is he, to leave his six month pregnant girlfriend?” Because as of one of my dear friends always says, “actions speaks louder than words.”
So Imma just be blunt, the one that’s going kray kray. Driving be my friends house and leaving messages on her husbands windshield while he’s at work. LMAO, (I cannot make this ish up), she did this to herself. She played herself, when she should have had enough self worth inside herself to know that she needed to fall back and not give him an opportunity to do the same thing to her.
Please, don’t take this the wrong way, in no way am I male bashing. My girlfriend’s husband is a great guy, but sometimes things happen and from what I’ve seen to be true most men just head to the next. They ain’t got time for reflection. They hunt. They need to feed. So, we as women gotta use our intuition and know that they just trying to work a few things out and all he’s willing looking for is a shoulder to cry on.
He gonna get rite back to her. He just need a minute. So, if we step in and start trying to build in another woman’s space, it’s bound to be fail. Hence, if we women wouldn’t allow the action, men couldn’t commit the crime.
Yall, I’m a praying woman, so I’m about to put the blood of Jesus on my friend’s marriage, I want these two to succeed. And to Lil Miss Break, don’t be mad, he wasn’t urs to be had. Go read a self help book, play with your children, spend time getting to know URself and pray. God got a husband for you too…